About Me

My Origin Story

I am a second generation Chinese Canadian who grew up out of place and had cultural differences with everyone around me including my family.  I was a comic loving, adventurous tomboy and artist with a vivid imagination.  As you can imagine, I was a prime target for bullies!

Eventually I was tired of not fitting in, so I tried to fit in to fulfill my family and society’s views on success.  This only caused depression and unhappiness.  You can only walk so far in someone else’s shoes before your feet start to hurt. It just doesn’t fit!

I left my family home as soon as I was financially able to.  I worked a year in Mexico and 3 months in Whistler as part of my university co-op program.  Eventually I moved across the country to Toronto, then across the world to Vietnam! 

I have lived an adventurous life, but I could not run away from the inability to connect with myself.  I lived in a constant state of anxiety, fear and depression.  I was so used to being in this state, I didn’t even really notice it.  

I started dating my best friend who knew everything about me, but I STILL started to change myself and as a result, we were both unhappy. This is when I realized I suffered from codependency, passed down from childhood trauma and generations of ancestral trauma.  I  was at risk of losing myself and my best friend if I didn’t make some real changes. 

The revelation that I was codependent changed my life and began my journey to heal myself.  After decades of being unhappy, unfulfilled and lost, I finally put a name to my problem, and was able to roll up my sleeves and start work!

I started doing everything I could think of.  I researched childhood trauma and codependency, listened to podcasts, and practiced mindful meditation practice.  My own study was not enough, so I joined group coaching and therapy and got the support I needed to work on strategies to overcome my trauma.

Slowly I became aware of my (extremely mean) inner critic.  I gave myself permission to be kind to myself, and to have time and space to do the things I enjoy.  I got back in touch with my artistic and spiritual side and slowly I became myself again.  I came back to life and felt something that I hadn’t felt in a long time, peace and contentment.

Now I can hear my own inner voice and will continue to spend energy doing work that I find fulfilling.  I cut out things that do not align with my truth, but kept doing what I enjoy, such as building communities, working as a media designer, and helping people.  Everything I do is now inline with my authentic self.  

My mission in life is to help others like me, who are lost in all the noise from family and society.   I am here to use all the tools I have learned and continue to learn to help you!  I want to empower you to express yourself, find your direction and realize your dream.